Personally, I feel it is hard to say NO, especially to someone close to you or someone that you respect. Some friends these days told me that I have a choleric personality in me. I don't think I even had this personality a few years ago.
At times when I am being choleric, I am turned into someone who strives to lead and be in control of things. I will say a big NO without any hesitation if I feel that's the right answer, and can be nasty too sometimes. The problem is, there is also the other side of me which does not want to dissapoint others. After that, conflict usualy arises within me and I think about it more at night when I am alone (post decision syndrome?) hehehe ..
Well, I had to say a big NO to someone I respect today, not because I don't want to help but I want to concentrate on other things at the moment and just don't have the time to help. Imagine my normal schedule for a week:
- Fulltime work 9-5.30 from Monday to Friday
- 3 nights of master course lectures
- do some reading and assignments during the week
- Saturday: bible study in the afternoon, followed by music practice and youth fellowship
- Sunday: church in the morning and followed by bible study preparation until 12.
Frankly speaking, I only have my rest on Sunday afternoon for the whole days. I just had to say NO or I won't be much help either and will even dissapoint more in the end.
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